OK - it's not my intention to 'jump on the bandwagon'. There's enough press coverage and media to ensure that every living and breathing warm body in Singapore is aware of the recent debate on this issue and the awareness campaign associated with it. The intent of my writing here, is to highlight a very ugly side to this whole affair which I've noticed recently.
Firstly, background for my readers outside of Singapore... I've drawn your attention to the debate over the last couple of years in relation to the repeal or retentyion of Section 377A of the Singapore Penal Code (the remaining legislation that criminalises sex between mutually consenting adult men) - this law is still in force.
At the same time that the debate on the retention or repeal of 377A was a 'hot topic' (when the Penal Code came under review two years ago), MPs and civil society groups had also asked for a revision to Sections 375(4) and 376A(5) of the Penal Code (in relation to marital rape). The statute (that has been around since colonial days) was modified to offer protection to a married woman who has applied for divorce or has taken out a protection order against her husband.
In effect, this still grants immunity to many husbands who force their wives to have sex with them.
The latest campaign - "No To Rape" - is calling for marital rape to be treated in the same way as other forms of rape under the law... to most people across the globe, the answer is - "of course, why shouldn't it be?"
Now you have the background, let me share my disturbing observations today. There are a couple of well known forums in SG which seem to attract some very 'dubious' personalities with very strong feelings on this (and many other) issues - in one particular unnamed forum, there are many comments and posts that are completely against this intiative (this can be found after scrolling through the numerous 'hate' topics). They seem to suggest that it is a man's right to have sex with their wife whenever they so please... they go as far as to say things like "if the law is repealed, it will cause me to visit brothels or have extra-marital affairs" and "If marital rape is not allowed, then this should be clearly stated in a wedding contract" (comments have been paraphrased)... I am left speechless by this twisted logic... I am only touching on the commentary, as I blatantly refuse to republish any of the other posts - they are just downright offensive!! I find this very disturbing indeed.
My point is this - marital rape is abuse of the worst kind. It should be criminally punished with the strongest sentences that the courts can deliver. The gutless and deviant behaviour cannot and must not be tolerated. I was going to say that this is a "no brainer" - but members of the aforesaid forums have proven me wrong - they obviously have "no brains", but still feel comfortable spouting such irrational nonsense.
I urge all of my readers to join the awareness campaign, sign up for the petition and say "No To Rape"!!!