In this regard, there is a well-known Aussie by the name of Patrick Wanis, who is an expert in human behaviour, and when it comes to 'the art or coaching', this guy is 'as good as it gets' and my role model. He is well know for coaching celebrities as well as CEOs of many Multi-National Companies.
The following is an extract from his latest communication, and quite interesting - WHY MEN WANT WOMEN TO COOK FOR THEM. Following the article by Patrick Wanis, I have included his profile and website details for anyone who would like to subscribe to hin very insightful communications.
(By Patrick Wanis, PhD)
"Now let's talk about the controversial topic of what men and women want and why men want women to cook for them.
It's often a hot topic of debate- what do men want? What do women want? Can we understand the other gender? Can we ever please them?
Of course, media and society generally enjoy portraying the woman as the more difficult of the two genders to comprehend and work out. There is no doubt that generally women have more depth than most men - in the sense that they have a far wider range of needs and desires than men who are often portrayed as simpletons. (Some predominant feminine qualities include sensitivity, intuition, perception and nurturing. And incidentally, based on studies of the human brain, women can actually successfully multi-task. Men just think they can. Sorry guys!)
In my book, "What a woman wants" I use a joke to illustrate a point:
"There's an old joke that compares men with women:
How to seduce a woman: compliment her, respect her, honor her, cuddle her, kiss her, caress her, love her, stroke her, tease her, comfort her, protect her, hug her, hold her, spend money on her, wine and dine her, buy things for her, listen to her, care for her, stand by her, support her, hold her, go to the ends of the Earth for her.
How to seduce a man: Show up naked. Bring food."
While I am sure that you are probably laughing or maybe even cursing after reading the above, we all agree that there is much more that is required to bring joy, satisfaction and happiness to either a man or a woman than just the above list. In the context of a relationship, I teach in my book, "Get the man you want" that men desire four things from a woman:
1. For her to look good
2. Pay attention to him, and DO things with him
3. Regular and exciting sex
4. Treat him like a king
Now before the ladies get mad with me, I am not saying that the above is right and appropriate, but rather, that is the way it is.
For example, testosterone -the primary hormone in men promotes action, assertiveness, aggressiveness and competitiveness in men.
Right or wrong? That's the way it is.
So again, the question remains, "Why do men want women to cook for them?" Is it because they simply want to be treated like king? Is it because they believe they are superior, and that cooking and the kitchen is only the domain of a woman?
Beyond some of the potential sexist responses by some men, the answer lies much deeper than that and may even shock you.
I would like to answer that question with a story. I recall it was during one of visits to my home in Australia. I was in the kitchen.
My mom had cooked me a meal and let me know that it was ready. I sat down to eat, and for the first time, I consciously became aware of something truly significant. I noticed that I didn't want to get up and get it for myself. During most of my childhood years, after my grandmother who lived with us passed away when I was ten, my brother and I cooked for ourselves. My mom was studying for her PhD at the time and arrived home very late. So while it had been a habit for me for most of my childhood life to cook for myself, this time, I wanted my mother to serve me the food that she had cooked.
I wondered to myself, "Why is this important to me?" And then it hit me. It wasn't about me wanting to be a king, it was about me wanting to feel loved and believing that the food would actually taste better when served by my mother. For the ladies, it is critical to understand that men express love by "doing" and "giving" things - usually tangible things and therefore to a man, it is also an expression of love when a woman serves a man and gives him something. Underneath all of the pseudo male macho superiority, men also seek nurturing from women and they find that to be expressed with food and receiving.
Having said all of the above, I also humbly teach that yes, men should share in the chores and not demand or expect that the woman carry all the burdens of the house, and yes, men should look for opportunities to serve the lady - be it with a home cooked meal or a lengthy massage. Remember, whenever we serve the other person, we also enjoy the rewards of fulfillment. Maybe that is the real meaning of "It is more blessed to give than to receive." We all need to learn to give and receive!
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I wish you the best and remind you "Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!"
Patrick Wanis -"A Voice for women" -FOX News
“Out of any of the therapists/experts we've talked with in the past six years, Patrick is the most on-point and enlightening.” -FOX News Channel
“No one is ever able to connect with those students the way you did!” -Southwest High School Special Ed, Houston
“He’s very unusual – he understands women!” –Sally Jessy Raphael syndicated radio show
Anointed “The Woman Expert” by WGN Chicago and syndicated TV show, The Daily Buzz, Australian Patrick Wanis, PhD is a renowned Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert, Clinical Hypnotherapist and author with extensive credits worldwide. Wanis is the first person ever to do hypnotherapy on national television, on the Montel Williams show. Wanis is the Human Behavior & Relationship Expert for American Media Pocketbooks, Comcast –Dating On Demand, and Playboy Radio’s Afternoon Advice Show. Wanis is a regular contributor to Cosmo magazine and the weekly analyst on celebrity behavior for The New York Observer. He has coached various celebrities such as Hulk Hogan, consulted for major corporations, appeared on radio & television, and published books on human behavior, relationships, the mind, and personal development. More than five million people have read his books in English & Spanish. Wanis writes and speaks with passion, conviction and sincerity.
Wanis is one of the top experts on relationships, sexuality, communication, body language, human motivations, persuasion and women’s issues: Much of his work has focused on examining the role of the mind, body and physiology on behavior and psychological functioning. Wanis holds a PhD in Health Psychology from the Open International University for Alternative Medicine, Bachelor of Science in Communication, Associate Degrees in Dramatic Arts (Media) and Speech, Script-Writing & Communication from Australia, Associate Degrees in Advanced Hypnotherapy and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) from the World Institute of Cognitive Sciences, Pennsylvania. Wanis consults and trains major corporations such as El Paso Energy, Exxon, American Airlines, Doubletree & Hilton Hotels, Equinox Fitness.
Wanis is phenomenal on radio & TV: He answers smart and fast, thinks faster, employs an arch sense of humor and a seductive Australian accent. Wanis also provides amazing insight into the five core emotions that rule our behavior: fear, lust, contentment, love, hate, as well asinsight into women’s issues, sexuality, antics & motivations of people in the news.
Patrick Wanis began his career in Australia on stage, radio, and Television. He worked as Executive Producer & talk show host of News/Talk Radio 3AK, and Political TV reporter for Tens News television. The Australian Journalists Association awarded Wanis the elite ranking of Grade A triple plus Journalist and at age 23, became the youngest talk show host in Australian history.
Wanis soon traveled the world, working in Spain, Africa, England, Mexico and The Caribbean. In West Africa, he studied the link between the belief in Juju spells and the behavior of various tribes. Later, Wanis began motivational training programs & workshops for Steiners Services, Carnival Cruises. He also began consulting to large corporations such as Fox Television, SeaWorld and Busch Gardens. From 1998 to 2000, he was the Clinical Hypnotherapist and Relationship expert on America Talks Health, syndicated radio show. Wanis has hosted three TV talk show specials with teens on Terrorism and September 11, and is a published author. Watch his TV interviews: Click Here for Videos